When you enter a new relationship, it can be tricky to know when each of the firsts should happen. Should you kiss on the first date? Should you go back to his/hers on the third date? When should you have ‘the talk’? There’s another first that isn’t commonly discussed, however and that’s when the right time to introduce sex toys into the bedroom is.

The first time you and your partner have sex might not be the ideal time to whip out that 12-inch purple dildo. It can prove intimidating, especially for men and may seem a bit over-enthusiastic. The second, third or fourth times may not be appropriate either, so it’s important to recognise when you’re both ready for something a bit different.

It all depends on what type of relationship you have and who you are as individuals. If you’re both spontaneous, open and up for anything, then it might just be something that comes naturally during a night of fun.

However if one of you is a little shy, or if you are the type of couple that likes to discuss things, you might want to broach the subject slowly. Ask the other person how they feel about sex toys. Have they used them before? Did they enjoy it? If you get all the right signs, then you, as a couple, might be ready for a bit of extra fun. If one person isn’t so sure, then don’t rush it. You’ve plenty of time on your own to use your favourite vibrator or dildo, so don’t push them on someone who isn’t ready.

It’s also important to ensure both parties feel adequate throughout the process. Sometimes, one or both parties can feel like they aren’t good enough in bed, but what they must remember is that sex toys are just an addition on to a (usually) very satisfying sex life. It’s not something to be scared of, but to be embraced.